How Do Good Parents Have “Bad” Kids?
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Being a parent, as has been said, is not easy. It is filled with struggles and challenges. No good parent wants to have a “bad” kid. Whether they’re getting in trouble in school or misbehaving with family, many parents worry they are doing something wrong. As conventional thinking goes, parents are most often to blame when their children are out-of-control and exhibiting chronic bad behavior. When kids act out, it’s often the parents who get the blame. But that may not always be the case.
Bad Behavior Does Not Necessarily Mean Bad Parenting
Anyone with kids knows that everyone is different. Some may be more creative, others more coordinated. Well, what about behavior? For years, mental health professionals have been trained to see children as mere products of their environment, but researchers are finding this not to be exactly true. While there are all too many bad parents around, bad behavior by a child does not necessarily mean bad parenting is responsible. Sometimes good parents just have ‘bad’ kids. Bad parents can also have ‘good’ kids.
When children become teens, there is no doubt about it, they will test the patience and limits of parents. Parents need to tweak their parenting skills to keep up with them. It’s good to know what efforts are worth it and which ones backfire. Some teens get mixed up in bad things, such as doing drugs, hanging around with the wrong crowd or having sex. For parents to expect the worst could become a self-fulfilling prophecy, because negative expectations can actually promote the behavior you fear most. Do not sweat the small stuff. If it’s not putting your teen at risk, give them the leeway to make age-appropriate decisions and learn from the consequences of their choices. But, do not ignore the big stuff, either.
If you are looking for a program that provides a unique combination of therapy, spirituality, discipline and education for your troubled teen, Trinity Teen Solutions is your answer. Contact our Admissions Director at 307-202-8400 to learn more about how we can help you stop “bad” kid behaviors, for good.