Change is at the heart of everything we do at Trinity Teen. We firmly believe that people can truly change and make lasting, positive changes in their lives and behavior. Over the years, we have had the great opportunity of witnessing this and all of us will attest to the fact that anybody, no matter who they are or what they have done, can improve themselves with some hard work and determination.
The Problem With New Year’s Resolutions
The start of the new year often marks a time when people decide to make drastic changes in their lives. Everybody knows how it goes: You make new year’s resolutions, you do a great job for a week or two, and then you slip up once and all of your dreams of becoming a better person go down the drain, leaving you thinking, “I guess I’ll try again next year.”
The problem lies in one word: Drastic. When people try to change, they try to make drastic changes all at one time, and those drastic changes prove to be too much for them to handle. This quickly results in them feeling overwhelmed and giving up on their dreams before giving them a real chance.
A Simple Solution
The solution to the problem is as simple as the problem. All you need to do is start smaller. Change is a process, not a to-do list. You don’t just check off “I’ve changed!” in your journal and never think about it again. Just like any worthwhile journey, it can be difficult to accomplish, but anybody can change, so long as they do it little by little.
If you want to run a marathon, start by walking for 10 minutes every day. Once you’ve mastered that, move on to walking for 30 minutes, then a mile. Then jog for 10 minutes, 30 minutes, and so forth. Sure, the idea of hopping out of bed on January 1st and running a marathon is appealing, but the fact of the matter is it’s just not practical. But if you start small and master one baby step before moving on to the next, you’ll be much more likely to stick with your goal and you’ll be running marathons in no time!
It’s been said thousands of times before, but it’s definitely worth repeating: The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Notice how it doesn’t say, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a mile-long leap.” Instead of approaching change as a one-and-done, drastic checklist, try approaching it as a journey full of ups, downs, learning, and plenty of baby steps.