A Troubled Teen’s Journey In Treatment
Trinity Teen’s residential treatment for troubled adolescent girls is a life-changing journey. We have found that “talk” therapy alone is ineffective for many teen girls. Parents agree. Many that we consult with have tried talking to their teen until they’re blue in the face. They’ve tried counseling, medications, and therapy techniques to help their daughter. Our unique residential treatment program provides the solution that they’re looking for.
Trinity Teen Solutions operates using natural consequences to encourage girls to modify their behavior. As your daughter participates in therapy, chores, and experiential programs, she gains more privileges within the facility, which incentivizes her to get the most out of her time with us. Living in cozy cabins, working with and riding horses, performing ranch work and daily chores, and taking care of animals is a foreign way of life for most girls. Your daughter will need to depend on our experienced staff members in order to learn. This process immediately brings her closer to the staff and more receptive to learn new templates of behavior. This process builds adolescent self-esteem, and encourages trust and a loving relationship within Trinity Teen’s residential “community”.
In our experience, most troubled teen girls have similar patterns of behavior when they enter our facility. With these patterns in mind, Trinity Teen Solutions has designed experiential learning activities that will minimize the behaviors that are destroying your daughter’s life. At the same time, these experiential learning activities will increase her self-esteem, enhance her unique personality and bring out her hidden gifts. The typical girl’s journey at our adolescent, all-girls, residential treatment center is one that will enrich her mind, body and soul. Each girl needs to go through four distinct stages in order to internalize the changes that she needs to make. The length of time that each girl remains in each of the stages varies according to her unique situation and background.
Four Stages of Emotional Growth
Stage One: Shock
The first stage is characterized by shock an disbelief, and the discomfort of being thrown into a new environment. We’ve noticed that many girls who enter our residential treatment program are surprised that their parents actually did something about their behavior. This shock is a natural consequence of her out-of-control behavior. You are sending a clear signal that this kind of behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated.
When she first arrives at Trinity Teen Solutions her emotions and behavior will vary from anger, loneliness, sadness, remorse, manipulation, lying, and depression. During this time, she is the most vulnerable and will reach for something to make her comfortable again. It is amazing how even the hardest heart softens when it is distraught. As a means to provide help for troubled teens we encourage her to turn to God during this time to ease her discomfort. This is an important stage in preparing troubled teen girls to internalize the changes that she needs to make. Eventually, her relationship with God which she establishes during this time will motivate her to make positive changes in her life and behavior.
Stage Two: Anger
The next step is anger. Troubled girls will blame their parents, family, school, friends, and everyone around them for their actions. The length of time that troubled teens spend in anger varies depending on her history. Our mission is to get her to move from anger and blame to accountability. In order for her to begin to change her behavior, she needs to take accountability for it.
Stage Three: Remorse
The next stage is remorse. This occurs when the troubled teen feels sadness and remorse for her behavior. At this time, she takes accountability for her actions and sees the impact she has had on her loved ones and herself. When a girl feels remorse and processes the magnitude of her behavior she will not want to repeat it. During this stage, she seeks help for her troubled teen behaviors. She is open to change and wants to learn the tools to accomplish it. Her awareness of the problematic behavior in her past makes her less apt to repeat mistakes.
When a girl is going through this stage it is imperative to allow healthy outlets for remorse. We give your girl time and space to process things by talking with staff, writing letters, spending time in quiet contemplation, engaging in physical work, and being with animals that she has bonded with. We also focus on experiential learning activities that she enjoys to build a healthy self-esteem and focus on hope for the future.
Stage Four: Action
After remorse, our residents move into action. Developing new habits of behavior takes time. This stage is lengthy and will give her the tools, skills, and values that she will need after her discharge. Girls during this stage have both successes and failures. Again, we allow room for your daughter to experience natural consequences. Sometimes, she’ll fail in practicing new skills and behaviors. However, this is an important step because it will encourage her to learn how to pick herself back up again using her newly-acquired coping skills and tools.
During this stage, we’ve noticed that many girls become over-confident and think that they have nothing more to learn. They believe that they must be ready to go home. Usually this is when old habits and troublesome behaviors (such as lying and manipulating) revive. For example: she would repeatedly work on impulse control, by controlling her emotions and using her intellect to make decisions, rather than doing “what feels good in the moment”. The longer that we can work with a girl in this stage the better she will be equipped to handle the pressures of society after she leaves Trinity Teen’s residential treatment facility.
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